Did you know that up to half of all people you know are introverts?
If you’re not an introvert yourself, you are surely raising, managing, married to, or coupled with one.
When you think of an introvert, you may think of the wallflower, the shy person, the one who doesn’t like to be around people and would rather interact with a computer than a person. But introverts aren’t necessarily shy, they just need to recharge with alone time, while we extroverts need to recharge by being around people.
The single most important aspect of personality…is where we fall on the introvert-extrovert spectrum. Our place on this continuum influences our choice of friends and mates, and how we make conversation, resolve differences, and show love. It affects the careers we choose and whether or not we succeed at them.
Many introverts are “highly sensitive”. 70% of highly sensitive people are introverts. Cain interviews Elaine Aron, an expert on highly sensitive people, and spends some time at a retreat for the highly sensitive.
Homeschoolers will be interested to learn that the obsession with the dreaded “S” word, socialization, seems to stem from the 20’s, when psychologists started warning about the “dangers” of shyness. By mid-century, parents were discouraging their children from hobbies that would be deemed “unpopular”. It’s also interesting to note cultural differences – with some cultures, such as China, celebrating the introvert, while our western culture celebrates the extrovert.
If you’re a parent, you will especially find the chapter, “On Cobblers and Generals: How to Cultivate Quiet Kids in a World That Can’t Hear Them”. Cain shares real stories of parents and children. And she shares something that I’ve always practised with my so-called “shy” child:
…don’t let her hear you call her “shy”: she’ll believe the label and experience her nervousness as a fixed trait rather than an emotion she can control. She also knows full well that “shy” is a negative word in our society. Above all, do not shame her for her shyness.
So are you an introvert or an extrovert? If you don’t already know, or aren’t sure, there is a 20 question quiz included in the pages of Quiet. And guess what, you may even be an ambivert – there actually is such a thing.
This book is a must-read for both introverts and extroverts. Introverts and extroverts alike can learn not only about themselves, but their friends and loved ones. I understand my family just a little bit better now. Quiet retails for $28.00 for the hardcover and the paperback is being released today. You can find the book online or at your local bookstore. And be sure to check out ThePowerofIntroverts.com for more on the book, a forum, a 12 question quiz, and more.
I received Quiet from Blogging for Books in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own.