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Quiet – Book Review

quite-bookQuiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking is a well researched, fascinating book by Susan Cain (herself an introvert).

Did you know that up to half of all people you know are introverts?

If you’re not an introvert yourself, you are surely raising, managing, married to, or coupled with one.

When you think of an introvert, you may think of the wallflower, the shy person, the one who doesn’t like to be around people and would rather interact with a computer than a person. But introverts aren’t necessarily shy, they just need to recharge with alone time, while we extroverts need to recharge by being around people.

The single most important aspect of personality…is where we fall on the introvert-extrovert spectrum. Our place on this continuum influences our choice of friends and mates, and how we make conversation, resolve differences, and show love. It affects the careers we choose and whether or not we succeed at them.

Many introverts are “highly sensitive”. 70% of highly sensitive people are introverts. Cain interviews Elaine Aron, an expert on highly sensitive people, and spends some time at a retreat for the highly sensitive.

Homeschoolers will be interested to learn that the obsession with the dreaded “S” word, socialization, seems to stem from the 20’s, when psychologists started warning about the “dangers” of shyness. By mid-century, parents were discouraging their children from hobbies that would be deemed “unpopular”. It’s also interesting to note cultural differences – with some cultures, such as China, celebrating the introvert, while our western culture celebrates the extrovert.

If you’re a parent, you will especially find the chapter, “On Cobblers and Generals: How to Cultivate Quiet Kids in a World That Can’t Hear Them”. Cain shares real stories of parents and children. And she shares something that I’ve always practised with my so-called “shy” child:

…don’t let her hear you call her “shy”: she’ll believe the label and experience her nervousness as a fixed trait rather than an emotion she can control. She also knows full well that “shy” is a negative word in our society. Above all, do not shame her for her shyness.

So are you an introvert or an extrovert? If you don’t already know, or aren’t sure, there is a 20 question quiz included in the pages of Quiet. And guess what, you may even be an ambivert – there actually is such a thing.

This book is a must-read for both introverts and extroverts. Introverts and extroverts alike can learn not only about themselves, but their friends and loved ones. I understand my family just a little bit better now. Quiet retails for $28.00 for the hardcover and the paperback is being released today. You can find the book online or at your local bookstore. And be sure to check out ThePowerofIntroverts.com for more on the book, a forum, a 12 question quiz, and more.

Love, Luck &
Laughter,

I received Quiet from Blogging for Books in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own.

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Faith and Other Flat Tires Book Review AND Giveaway!

Faith and Other Flat Tires Book Review and Giveaway!


Faith and Other Flat Tires: A Memoir – searching for God on the rough road of doubt
is Andrea Palpant Dilley’s first book.  From the cover:

“At age twenty-one, Andrea Palpant Dilley stripped the Christian fish decal off her car bumper in a symbolic act of departure from her religious childhood. At twenty-three, she left the church and went searching for refuge in the company of men who left her lonely and friends who pushed the boundaries of what she once held sacred. In this deeply personal memoir, Andrea navigates the doubts that plague believers and skeptics alike: Why does a good God allow suffering? Why is God so silent, distant, and uninvolved? And why does the church seem so dysfunctional? Yet amid her skepticism, she begins to ask new questions: Could doubting be a form of faith? Might our doubts be a longing for God that leads to a faith we can ultimately live with?”

I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book. I enjoyed Andrea’s humour and honesty.  Interesting is her use of the framework of Pilgrim’s Progress for her chapters.  It was especially refreshing that this wasn’t the typical story that is shared about faith; the one where the person hit absolute bottom in the world of drugs and sex and finally found God.  No, this is a highly relatable tale to the average person. Andrea grapples with the same questions we all do: “If God exists, why is there so much suffering in the world? Why do babies get abandoned? Why do people go hungry?”

Like so many who have grown up in a Christian household, she turns away from the church as a young person, but she ultimately comes back to God.  She learns that it’s okay to doubt, to question, and to search.  I believe this is a great book to read for those who have asked or are asking these questions about God, for those who are seeking, and especially for young people just starting out in their late teens and 20s.

You can read more about Andrea Dilley’s experiences in her guest post on my blog HERE.  Faith and Other Flat Tires retails for $14.99 US and is available at Amazon or your local bookstore, and is also available for Kindle.

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I received this Zondervan book in exchange for an honest review.  All opinions are my own.

Love, Luck &
Laughter,

Kimberly

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Faith and Other Flat Tires – Author Guest Post

Photobucket I will be posting a review shortly on the book “Faith and Other Flat Tires”.  In the meantime, here is a guest post from author Andrea Palpant Dilley.

One winter afternoon when I was twelve years old, my father picked up a teenage hitchhiker who was standing on the side of the road wearing blue jeans with big holes in the knees. It was thirty-five degrees out that day. He climbed into the van with us, and then my dad drove on. The ensuing conversation, which I will never forget, went something like this:

“These are my kids, Andrea, Ben, and Nate. My name’s Sam. What’s your name?”

“Donovan.”

My father paused. “Have you ever heard of Amy Carmichael?”

“Um, no …”

“She was a missionary to India who worked to save young girls from sex trade. She worked at a place called Dohnavur, which is kind of close to your name, Donavan. So you have a good name, a name with Christian purpose.”

“Oh.”

In the hitchhiker’s long pause that followed, I remember thinking, “My father is out of his mind, preying on this young hitchhiker who wanted a ride and instead got a church sermon on Christian missionary history.” I felt embarrassed in the same way I did when my dad prayed over our food in a restaurant and the waiter brought the ketchup while he was still praying.

When we reached the cut-off road to our house, my dad pulled onto the shoulder and then turned to my older brother. “Ben,” he said, “Why don’t you give Donovan your jeans. It’s cold out.” In the back seat of the van, Ben took off his pants while my little brother and I looked sideways at each other. Proverbial Christian wisdom says you give away the coat off your back, not the pants off your backside. In exchange for my brother’s, Donavan handed over his own ripped jeans and then climbed out of the van.

When we asked where he was going, Donavan said, “Farther north toward Canada.” That was all. He was out wandering alone in the prairie land of eastern Washington. I watched from the back seat as he diminished into the distance, a tall lean figure standing on the side of a long winter road.

Although I didn’t know it at the time, that experience foreshadowed the day that I would get up and leave behind the faith of my childhood. I would be the one climbing out of the car, striking out on pilgrimage into the unknown.

The reasons for my departure were complicated. I spent my early childhood in Kenya as the daughter of “social-justice-and-Jesus” hippy Quaker missionaries and the rest of my growing up years in a healthy, smart church community back in the U.S. And yet, when I came of age and turned 23, I chose to leave the church. I literally stood up from the pew one Sunday morning and walked out right in the middle of a sermon.

A few months before—in the summer after college—I’d worked at an orphanage in the slums of Nairobi and in those months started feeling deep unease about the Christian faith. I wanted to know: Why does God seem distant and inaccessible? What good does prayer do for an AIDS baby or anyone else? And why in the world does God allow kids to suffer parentless in a slumland?

When I came back to the U.S. in the fall, I walked out of the church sanctuary one morning and started into a two-year journey away from Christianity. My faith had a flat tire. I was a lonely college graduate standing on the side of a cold winter road, a lost hitchhiker with no car and no direction, looking out at the wilderness of my heart.

Years later, I returned to church with a changed faith. But I didn’t know that at the time. The day I left, I set out on a search having no idea where I would go in my wandering and or how I would find my way back home.

Andrea Palpant Dilley